Out of experience witnessing many people yearn to reconnect and actually helping many more successfully reconnecting with their ex. I have known it as a fact that an ex can easily come back begging for a reconciliation. It is more common than not.
You see, when in a relationship, most of us take things for granted. We assume that we’re not obligated to nurture existing relationships to make them functional. Many may even assume that the grass is greener on the other side – that if they lose the current relationship, they will quickly move on. To someone or something else “better”. However, reality hits them hard and gives them a reality check, desiring to get back with their ex.
The following are some of the commonest reasons as to why an ex can keep reaching out:
- Discovering that their new catch is nowhere as good as their ex of course makes them desire to go back to what they know worked.
- Sometimes sense visits some people a bit late. They might have easily walked out in anger but after some time away from the ex, they get remorseful and desire to get back with the ex.
- Failure to find someone else to replace the ex. Some people, after a breakup, fail to find someone else to date and thus will attempt to reach out to the ex in a bid to reconcile.
- Reminiscing the good deeds and times together with the ex. When the dust settles, we sit down and start counting and recounting the past relationship. When it makes sense that the good supersedes the bad, we obviously try to rich out to the ex.
- Others are just advised by third parties such as friends and relatives who look at a bigger picture and tell them to reach out in a bid to reconcile than to look for someone else new.
- Shared attachments and commitments with an ex. Assume you have shared investments/property, you’re bound to reach out to the ex to.ensure your rights to shared property as kept alive.
- The existence of children is an obvious incentive to keep reaching out to one’s ex. You may miss them and would like to reach out to monitor their wellbeing and ensure that they don’t lose memory of you.
- Others do it out of kindness to see how the ex is fairing. Not all exes reach out to rekindle the romance. Some, especially when the breakup wasn’t violent (no fights).
- Whereas others reach out to ensure that the ex is as miserable as they wished them to be. They communicate to hear you tell them that things are difficult for you. Your misery may give them joy!
In a nutshell, the reasons why an ex may keep reaching out are as varied as the number of ex-lovers out there. Each with their own set of reasons. Don’t just jump to conclusions. Take time and discern their intentions. If you intend to reconcile with them, first make sure you examine the reasons why you should get back. And ensure that the reasons for the breakup in the first place have been addressed.
If they were responsible for the breakup, have they acknowledged their fault and ready to reform? Are you yourself reformed if you were the guilty party? If you just accept an ex out of excitement, you may end being an ex for the same person two times in quick succession. Forewarned is forearmed.
